But, I must question...

"I am human, therefore nothing human can be alien to me."

~Maya Angelou

I feel what you feel and I understand it, believe me I do...

Why should you feel hurt if your spouse found something intriguing in someonelse and decided to go explore that thought and sleeps with someone else? Why should you feel hurt if he/she did something that made him/her happy? Why should you let that element that makes your spouse happy--why should you let that factor be a cause of your pain? Why should that hurt?


You don't know...

...but it just does.

it just does...

it hurts.


It's nothing that you have control over. It's supposed to hurt. Why would one want to go through training his/her mind so that he/she does not get hurt by such an act--when as human beings as well as other animals our innate instinct is to feel emotions? How do dolphins save humans from sharks and bears take care of little girls and primates nurse our babies, how do we show compassion for a wounded dog or an old woman hurt on the street, how do we do this if we stopped feeling? We can't pick which emotions to feel--either we feel or we don't. Once you train yourself to not let it hurt, --you'll stop feeling everything. Why would anyone want to become a cold-hearted stone with nothing to give or offer to anyone because he/she is now empty inside...


But to not let it hurt would mean to make myself stop feeling...
To stop feeling would mean to make myself not human...